Lately, I saw one of my favourite movie, RHTDM. There’s one scene in that movie where HERO eats chicken for getting HEROINE besides being a Brahmin. He sacrifices his rituals for sake of his love, but he didn’t mind because he was in Ideal state. You can’t define ideal state but in this state, we think that Love chooses us or we just magically fall in love. We try our level best to keep everything perfect as we want to make it for long. We sort out matter and adjust with each other. Even though, we are aware of the fact that we are not perfect for each other but for making it perfect we try to bring change in our attitude. In this ideal state, sacrifices will make him/her happier and she/he considers love as act of giving.
We sacrifice our ego in many cases because we want other person to be in our life. Every person in this world needs an attention, they need to feel special. Many times, this ego made us happier. In men’s case it plays the major role. As we know, men are from Mars and they love to win & conquer. They start to introduce their love-mate as, “Hey, meet my girlfriend Avantika.”If we observe the sentence, he used ‘my’ first, then his relationship with that girl i.e. ‘girlfriend’ and the end he uttered her name. By adding word MY they add their intimacy for their love-mate, which later turn into an ego. Men are tough but ironic thing is that our ego is as fragile as balloon reason behind this is a fear. Every man in relationship is terrified that in the end, he will amount to nothing. Deep-down inside he is afraid that it is all going to go away and he’s going to remain nothing ,but a zero. In some cases we fall into relationship or continue it in sake of satisfying our ego. As the load of ego increases, the ship of the relationship starts sinking. Our ego start getting hurt when she stops texting you, calling you back and start talking to that person whom you dislike. You start calculating all your past sacrifices and make him/her realise your worth in their life. This happens in state of compromise where idealism is lost.
A stage comes that you are in relationship only because of him, her & his/her ego. You don’t want others to know that you lose your girlfriend/boyfriend. When this stage arrives you should be aware that what matter in the end. Though Ego is your enemy but it’s always with you. If you want relationship you have to sacrifice your ego. Then it’s your choice what matter you more ‘Ego or Relationship?’.
In Engg, we were taught a term called threshold, which means minimum amounts of unit required to start the process. If the voltage or frequency goes below this threshold amount there is no effect or process end. In relationship also we forget this threshold amount, but in the end the value of this threshold frequency increases which ultimately spoils your relationship. It will be better we should not go beyond threshold as it will cause adverse effect in your relationship in future. Desire in all level is legitimate and these desires are evolved from love, which need to be satisfied. If your love can find satisfaction in all level then there is no need of ego.
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