Your family are your role models for every kind of relationship you'll ever have, and your mindset towards almost every aspect of life
•Romance
•Self-Love
•Friendships
•Work-life balance
•What you think love is supposed to be
This can be a good thing, or terrible thing.
Maturation is realizing that how your family operates is NOT how exactly how the world operates.
If you're fortunate, you've got family that is both shelter from the world and a positive model for how people should live and love each other
If you're unlucky maturity is realizing that how your family operates is NOT how exactly how the world operates. When you reach maturity level and realize your family is fucked up, and you've probably got A LOT of issues because of how you were raised and who you were around, and you realize none of this is healthy, because you've seen healthy families, and they don't function anything like yours.
If you want to have healthy relationships, both with YOURSELF and with others, you will need to distinguish between the unhealthy beliefs and patterns that your family put into your head, and replace them with healthy ones.
This will require conscious effort and take time. It will also require setting hard and fast boundaries with your family, up to the point with them, cutting off contact with few, or only speaking to them in very short amounts of time.
If you come from a family of manipulators, they'll always drag you back to hell.
Family can be FATE.
if you don't want to end up like those people, you can't be like them and live like them and that means excising all of their fucked up pathologies and behaviors out of your own self.
