Managing Relationship !!!

Everyone of us wants to talk about relationship and esp the problems which are failing, going nowhere or which are proving problematic !!!! Or may be relationships with our loved one, our friends ,sibling. These are the ones who are close to us and which can cause us much hurt if they go away.

Why are relationships so important to us and why are they the cause of so much heartburn, if things go wrong? It is because we are, as Aristotle defined us, Social Animals. Why do relationships sometimes go sour? There can be a million reasons but the bottomline always is when one feels that he or she has been taken advantage of or may be if one feels s/he is giving more than what one is receiving.

                  Ever noticed that when one is in love, one never counts the number of favours one has done for the other no of gifts, no of msgs, calls, kiss…..etc. its just as Parent never keeps list of the things s/he has done for the child. This is Unconditional Love.

Sadly, things do not last for too long. Just like The child grows up and sometimes we fall out of love. We start counting. And the result is noticeable cooling down in the Warmth between the people and breakdown. Then only one thing left in this circumstance is ‘MOVE ON !!!!

Always try to rely on patience in trying to understand your relationships and try to fit yourself in the other person’s shoes to understand the cause behind your changing attitudes and then rely on self-analysis. You will be surprised to discover that you are the unwitting cause of a breaking relationship. Perhaps you have been neglectful, perhaps you have been taking it for granted or may be its because of your ego.

Relationships are like living creatures since they concern living beings. That is why they need tender care to flourish.

DEcayed

Its 2010,one more decade is going to be finished within a month. Many things happened in this TEN years.....9/11 to 26/11....NDA to UPA.....Vajpayee to Manmohan aka Sonia Gandhi.....Defence Scam to 2G Scam.....world around you is Totally Changed. Inspite of Integration we are doing Derivation. Things which were available at paise’s are now available in  hundred’s. Individualism or in marketing terms Niche marketing is popular now a Days….Congress split into NCP…..Shiv Sena split into MNS…..Self-centred and Egoism are the two easily incorporated words in our Life.

            Even this 10 years has changed my Identity…… I was Hindu…..den Brahmin…..den our education system told me I m Open Category……now bcoz of Raj Thakarey I am a ‘Bhaiya’now. Have you ever thought that the words like missed call, SMS, Facebook, poke, Move-on ,Breakup, etc can play important role in your life. One of the biggest MUJREEM is English Language…..in Hindi/Marathi ‘Love’ means Pyaar/Prem but English has infatuation, Obsession, crush , Affection, Adoration, bla bla bla……..all this words are just confusing our Feeling.

During 2000, ‘Love’ was just staring at a girl you like a lot and to observe her. Gathering her information about her landline no (so to give blank call and listen to her HELLO)……her fav colour (so to dress in that colour)……her fav Actor (so to look like that hero)…..fav song (to give her blank call & make her hear that song) and most important her address (to accelerate and make sound by bike opp to her house).

2003came …..Mobile Revolution……at that time everyone thought this will make you love closer……but we dint knew this thing will become the biggest reason 2 make us apart.

How free were you before Mobile….use to play cricket upto 7pm….roam after tution/school…..go to yours friend…..come back at home at any time u want ……total Bindass…..Mobile give us new curiosity to get her number…because texting was best way to approach a girl. It has brought paradigm shift in your love life. Now, there’s no need to hide your Cordless Phone….change the cell of ID caller…..no need to give identification blank Call. Ab bass ek msg. “Call u at 1am”. Now it is only a Loss, Budget of pocket money increases and top of it Sleepless nights came as Combo Pack. New emotional jargons were introduce ‘sd tc gn gm ge luv u’ in your Life. Now girl friend’s name was apparently changing in to a boys name and was visible in “dialled calls received calls inbox sent and to messs wid it at the end was more dangerous “miss” call”. Miss calls wud make your memory as well as your mobile’s memory go low n your battery down with “ where r u?,busy ho kya??, Atleast leave a msg…..call me sooon ?”  & result was sent msgs full with “ I was with my friends yaar ….., sorry L ab maan bhi jao…..blah blah blah ..” Inshort your privacy is gone and your life is just to say your’s …….else you live as she wants in Dominant status.

                                   

                                                            ERA of Social networking began pics uploads…. Poking others…. Seeing your school mate again in new hair style and beard……seeing your old crush pics……relationship Status. Now scrap, wall post, comments were added to our life’s …...A foolish comment can spoil many hours on your phones and may be days also. Now I can really feel those words “Science a Boom as well as a Curse”

                                                            Within this year not even technology has changed our perception also changed .Idealism was shattered by new word PRACTICALISM .Slangs are considered cool kinda thing….. SEX before marriage was “pagal hain kya??”  & now SEX before marriage was “ Ab tak nahi….pagal hai kya???”.Now “Virginity is not a sign of purity but sign of lack of opportunity”. Even some lines that made you happiest like “kya hum dost bann sakta hain” now sounds like hurting a much.

             

                                                                        In college we use to bunk classes ….. meet and plan Now we plan to meet. Life has completely changed aim of  the life has also changed even the priorities also ..BUT you cannot feel as happy as you were 10 years before .Even dating the hottest chick around you cannot give you that happiness which you would got on acceptance of your first proposal. You can be a MBA , you can be a Doctor but you will always remember your 10^th grade marks for each subject

                                               

 So, Finally that why I feel like this times was not only a decade but also decayed.

                                            

Truth is “ CHANGES ARE PERMANENT IN LIFE” but somethings wont change Your MOMS love towards you ,Their trust on you and Still it doesn’t matter how u changed be not so good…,you turned fatty or skiny …. For your PARENTS you are the best looking person on earth…….

                                  

This was my attempt to think what was this ten years to me which cannot be said in few words but felt in few of them frankly speaking could not find the best topic to write my new blog “this was the first that came in to my mind n the last also”  you had it from my side now many of u may agree few of u may not but still a pure sure and sarcastic attempt by me …….THANX FOR READING…